Communication Styles

Everyone has their love language and their own communication style. With today's technology texting and cell phones are way more common than not. Being easily accessible is a convenience for most but a problem for some. Believe it or not there are people who do not like to text and do not like to talk on the phone. These people each have their own reasons. This can cause a lot of tension and friction in a relationship if the two people happen to be opposites in this area. The question is: Can two people with different communication styles have a successful relationship? One of them, it seems, will always feel their needs are unfulfilled. That feeling can lead to cheating and eventually the dissolution of the relationship. Maybe it could work if compromise were an option. But what if one is willing to compromise and the other isn't? One can't compromise without the other, right? I mean one partner can't be expected to make all of the changes. There has to be a middle ground and an agreement. When one is forced to make all of the personality changes then it becomes a control issue and that becomes an abuse issue. Personally, I am the type that loves to be in almost constant contact with my lover when we are apart. I am curious to know what they are doing and what they are thinking. I enjoy talking to them about anything and everything. I am a child of my generation and I absolutely love to text. That is the number one way to get ahold of me if you need something. It is super convenient for me since I have a toddler. That and I am a huge attention whore. I am very upfront about this issue as well. It's an insecurity thing and yes I know it is not exactly healthy but I am hoping that my current boyfriend will stick around long enough to help me work through this, along with many other issues that I have. I believe in courtesy texts. I will text my partner several times a day with stuff that I want to talk about in person and texted them so that I don't forget it; ideas that I had; sweet and romantic little kissy faces; little love you notes; or courtesy texts (texts that think about the other persons thoughts and feelings before you do any kind of action). I need to know that my partner is thinking about me as much as I am thinking about them. I need to be reassured that they aren't looking for anyone else. Now if they are at work then my mind realizes that. I may send a text or two through out the day to let him know that I was thinking about him and that I miss him. But if I know he's busy then I don't expect a reply, via text or phone, at least until he is off of work. Most of the guys I have dated have made me the center of their attention. They would text or call whenever it was possible. BUT my current boyfriend is not like that at all. He hates the phone and texting. OMG! What's a needy attention whore to do?? Well I love this man and I have voiced my opinion about this several times. And I have a feeling that we will be have several more discussions about it. If we want to make our relationship work, that is. We could just end it and deem it a good try but just not compatible. I love him enough that I believe that we could make it if we just came to a compromising agreement. When something is expected and that expectation is not reached we become disappointed. Repeated disappointments turn into trust issues. So the best thing to do is to be open and upfront about your communication style in the very beginning. It will save a lot of trouble and heartache.